And, as fathers, they know how to care for another human being!It's heartwarming to hear a man talk lovingly about his children, and gives me a glimpse into his caring, sensitive, and nurturing side.Divorced dads I've dated have bailed on things from Saturday night movie plans to major events in my life when babysitters backed out or their exes called for last-minute back-up.And while divorced dads have legitimate childcare responsibilities, it can sometimes feel like they're using their kids as an excuse to keep me at a distance, or end the relationship altogether.I've made sacrifices in my life to be a writer — namely, financial. I like a lot of things about my apartment, but it feels like maybe a step and a half up from a dorm, with nary a picture hanging on the wall or throw rug on the floor.For the past 11 years, I've lived in a small studio apartment that I initially thought of as a temporary place to park until I bought a brownstone. Divorced dads have real, grown-up responsibilities. They've likely lived in fully decorated homes, even if they don't at the moment due to a post-divorce transition."While some women may consider it a liability, being a divorced dad is a big plus for me.
Going through emotionally difficult experiences, or having life not work out as you'd expected or hoped, tends to build character, compassion, and depth.
With a man who's been married before, you know that he can commit, says Eris Huemer, cofounder of Divorce Doctor, a company that provides counseling for people going through divorces.
Divorced men also know the ups and downs that come with long-term involvement.
Of course, I probably subconsciously extrapolate this to mean that he will know how to take care of , as taking care of myself is another part of being an adult that I struggle with. I love kids and love being an aunt, but I'm not frantically chasing my ticking biological clock.
I don't feel the absolute need to have kids the way some of my single friends who have pursued artificial insemination because they they want to have children with or without a partner.