I’m guessing they check out my profile, see my age, and probably read no further.Even if I am within their desired range, I still don’t get much of a response.It’s the built-in folly of online sites: you are only defined by your age, in bold type right next to your user name.I am a youthful, fit and free-spirited woman and to be honest, I’m not ready for the retired 65-70 year old guys.Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50 market. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online.
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!I don’t mean those men any disrespect, I just want to date a guy closer to my age so that I have a longer future with him, and I don’t feel that I should have to apologize for that.I have taken your and others’ advice about profile writing, and I have great photos, so I feel confident that the problem is not in how I present myself. It always comes out eventually and I’d hate to have to explain myself then.